4 How do you make sex special? The first time Young people talk about the first time... JAMIE, AGE 15: ‘My first time? I haven’t thought about that at all. I’ll see. Not yet anyway.’ KATY, AGE 16: ‘My first time was so good. One evening my parents weren’t home. We’d arranged beforehand that we’d do it. So I lit some candles and put on romantic music. We went very slowly. We were nervous, but I also felt very comfortable with her. In the end I didn’t think ‘it’ was so special. But I’m pleased my first time was with her.’ NORA, AGE 17: ‘I haven’t done it yet. I want to wait until I’m married. My wedding night will be my first time. I think that’s really romantic, but also an exciting thought. I hope it will be the first time for my husband too so that we can discover it together.’ ZORAN, AGE 18: ‘My first time was quite embarrassing. I came much too soon because I was nervous. Luckily she didn’t really mind. Now that I’ve done it more often, I really like having sex.’ EMMA, AGE 18: ‘My first time was actually a bit of a disappointment. I thought it would be really romantic, but we were both incredibly nervous. It hurt and it was all over before I knew it. Now I have more experience so I can enjoy it more. JOSHUA, AGE 17: ‘I picked her up from school to do something together. We decided to watch a film in her room. One thing led to another. I was the first one for her and she was the first one for me. That made it feel really special. I think this experience brought us closer together. I love her so much.’ complete My ideal first time How would you like your first time to be? Make your choice. Have you already had your first time? Then try to imagine how your next time will be. Where? At my home At the other person’s home Somewhere else, like …………………… …………………………….……………….….. With who? With my boyfriend/girlfriend With someone I like and find attractive With the person I’m married to It doesn’t really matter who it is Or ………………………………………… …………………………….……………….….. When? It must feel right Just when I feel like having sex When I think I’m old enough When I’m in a serious relationship or I’m married Or ………………………………………… …………………………….……………….….. Remember: You may not always be in full control of the situation. So your first time might not go the way you’d expected it to. Don’t worry. The more experienced you get, the better it will be. 24 LONG LIVE LOVE
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