tips and complete What to do if they don’t want to use condoms STEP 1. Say that you only want to have sex with condoms. Say, for example: ‘I only do it with a condom’. STEP 2. Don’t they want to? Then say why you do want to use a condom. What would you say? I’d say: ‘I do trust you. But not our exes’. I’d say: ‘Sex without worries is much more fun’. I’d say: ‘You can never be sure whether you have an STI’. Something else: . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . STEP 3. Do they still not want to use a condom? Then suggest you have sex another way. Say, for example: ‘Then we’ll just kiss’. STEP 4. Do they not want that either? Then say you’re not happy about that. Say, for example: ‘I think that’s a shame’. STEP 5. Do they still not want to? Don’t let yourself be persuaded. Say that you’ll only have sex with condoms. Say, for example, ‘I’ll only do it with a condom’. LONG LIVE LOVE 45 Am I being difficult? To: info@sense.info From: emmadv@gmail.com Subject: With a condom? Dear Sense, My new boyfriend wants to have sex without condoms as I’m on the pill. He says he’s sure I don’t have any STIs. I don’t want to yet, I think there’s too great a risk. He thinks I’m being difficult. What should I do? -----------------------------------------------Dear Emma, Say why you want to have sex with condoms. You can tell him, for example, that you trust him but you can never be sure whether either of you picked up something in a previous relationship. You can also suggest making love another way. Don’t let him put pressure on you. Say that you’ll only have sex without condoms once you’ve both been tested for STIs. If the results of the STI test are fine and you only have sex with each other, then you can do it without condoms. But always use something to prevent pregnancy, such as the pill or an IUD.
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